It is International Coaching Week, and I want to celebrate it by sharing my key lessons from three years of coaching with you.
Back in September 2016, I started a new job because I felt trapped in the old one. Long hours of work, no growth potential and just not the right vibe. I had my side business started for a little while, but as it couldn’t pay my living costs, I searched for a new job.
I still knew this won’t be the last job I want to do in my life. I longed for more. On Facebook I saw someone recommending the Beautiful You Coaching Academy and that their courses for 2017 were open to enrol.
Reading through the sales page, listening to testimonials and just feeling the overall vibe, I told myself, this is it. I want to be a coach. The logic brain kicked in and said, who are you wanting to be a coach? You are going to be 23 in a month. You are too young!
I signed up anyway. The next three months until the course started, my personal life was really tested. My romantic relationship was on the verge of falling apart (due to my fault), and within our friend circle, there was some heavy stuff going on too. Looking back now, I see how it prepared me for the long road that will start when you start studying life coaching.
Everyone in the testimonials said, they couldn’t believe how much the course changed their lives. Of course, I thought, everyone, is saying this. It is testimonial. They want to sell the course… Boy was I wrong!
I have not only learnt how to coach but also how to build a stable business as a coach. The question I had to ask my clients was a slap in my own face too. You start asking yourself the same questions. You do work; you never wanted to do initially.
The study months were intense. As the BYCA is based in Australia, I had to listen to the live classes in the middle of the night. There were some calls during my mornings, however, as I was working full time, I couldn’t take advantage of these courses.
So there were many nights, I went to bed for 3 hours, got back up at 1am (or 2 or 3am depending on daylight saving time) and got back to sleep for a few hours to get back up for work.
I am proud of me that I stuck with it and achieved all the requirements so I could get certified later on.
Two times a year, the Beautiful You Coaching Academy is hosting an Inspiration Day. I purposely chose the February course as I got the chance to attend for free. It was at the end of our studies, so it was a perfect way to celebrate my achievements.
Paris is just 1.5hrs away by aeroplane, so I took the chance and visited the city. Renting a room through Airbnb a bit outside of the centre lets you realize that Paris is a very conflicted city.
Taking the metro, you see a culture that is far away from the glorious Paris picture everyone has when they want to spend their honeymoon there. Paris may have some historical places, but in general, it isn’t a city I have to visit soon.
In 2015, just six months prior was the devastating terrorist attack in Paris that killed 130 people. Visiting France in a complete state of emergency was a bit risky. I was travelling alone, and I rather have some company with me. Sitting at the airport, waiting for my ticket to be booked on another flight, there was unattended luggage inside the airport. Hearing the typical airport voice asking to please pick up the backpack made people more nervous than necessary. Two policemen and two dogs passed me, and I thought to myself, I have now survived nearly five days of staying in Paris without an incident, please just let me go home safely. In the end, everything went well.
Starting my business
Now that I have graduated, I wanted to start my business immediately. I mean, I have the skills now, why isn’t everybody booking a session with me? I invested in some online courses that in hindsight were okay, but I would have better spent my money otherwise. I asked in a Facebook group for pro bono clients, and three people took the opportunity.
I spent the next four months coaching these beautiful women and got accepted as a certified life coach through Beautiful You Coaching Academy. One requirement was to get coached for at least three months through a Beautiful You coach before getting certified.
My coach Anna Maria Locke supported me for six months, and it was a massive mindset shift. It helped me seeing the bigger picture and working towards my own certification, I am glad I had her support. You can find her website here.
In April 2018, I got certified and May 1st we moved into our new apartment. So you can bet, getting ready to be certified as a life coach and moving at the same time isn’t the best combo. After we moved into our new place, I lost a bit of momentum. There was a lot of things going on at work, in my personal life, and I just hoped the certification would make a difference in my life. Like attracting clients out of nowhere.
I let it slip a bit, however, got accepted as a youth trainer in our karate club. For over a year, I trained the little ones as an assistant trainer/coach, and it was great to use my coaching skills differently.
In 2019 my coaching headed into a different direction. I lead an international team of wellness advocates, and I put my focus on them to get our team further. We met in Düsseldorf in 2019, enjoyed our team event, and it sparked new hope in my purpose of serving people. Even though I didn’t coach people in the “traditional” way, I could use every coaching skill I learnt. I have done a lot of personal development, and when you lead a team, they are a great mirror!
Coaching is a great tool to achieve a goal. But we all have our own backpack full of trauma, stories and unsolved problems. So I wanted to let you know that I am not perfect either. For more than 2.5 years, I took the chance to work with the beautiful Romea who is specialized as trauma healer and somatic experience therapist. There were many different things I worked through with her, and it wasn’t even related to my business. So please never feel ashamed to take the opportunity to work with a psychologist, psychiatrist or whatever support you need.
Saturday, October 12th 2019 two of my sisters, my grandmother and my mother and my sister’s boyfriend took the chance to redeem our tickets we won for a mountain train here in Switzerland. It was a beautiful day, very sunny and a day full of laughter.
Sunday, October 13th 2019, my little sister called me, her voice was shaking. I thought maybe her boyfriend broke up with her, only reminding myself this happened six months earlier. She told me that our grandmother (not the one from the day before) had died this afternoon.
My grandmother fought her cancer for almost five years, and I knew it was coming. Just two weeks prior, I visited her in the hospital. When the nurse told us she is on the palliative care unity, my heart sank. I knew that it is the end station. We had a good chat, a lot of laughter and when I said goodbye I had the feeling it will be the last time. I told her the first time in a very long time that I loved her and gave her a kiss.
The weeks after her death was one of the hardest in my life. It felt like a truck rolled over my chest several times. The very next day, my eyes were so swollen from crying. I couldn’t really hide it from my coworkers. At least they were very compassionate. However, in the following three months, I got really sick. I had a constant cold and couldn’t get back on track. In the end, I had a very severe stuck nerve in my neck and needed some heavy medications. Just a week before we left for a week in Miami to escape the cold.
I think that dark time made me more grateful for all I have now. I know I am a good coach. I have my skills and all my experiences led me to this day today.
It has been a journey, and I am grateful for all the beautiful women I have met throughout these years. The Beautiful You community is like nothing else. So compassionate, driven and just a big family.
I am proud to be a coach. I am grateful for my partner Simon for being by my side for almost ten years now. I am thankful to be alive. And I can’t wait to see what the future will hold for us.